It's not uncommon for Central Texans to be among the many Americans today who find themselves living alone. A New York Times analysis of U.S. Census Data recently reported that 51% of all American women are living without a spouse. Naturally, that means more men also are living without a spouse, so there are more singles in the world.

In today's stress-filled world, one way to make yourself resilient to the vicissitudes of life and affects of stress is to build a network of friends and family in which you feel valued and understood. Numerous studies have shown that people who have social connections live longer and suffer fewer debilitating illnesses than those who are isolated.

If you are living alone (or even if you are not and want to expand your network), the following are some suggestions for strengthening your own safety net:

• If you live alone and have few friends, try volunteering. The shared camaraderie of helping others can help you make connections with people like yourself. It will also broaden your horizons and help you be more tolerant of people who are different from you.
  
  
• Find a church or other spiritual group that shares your values and attend regularly. Participate in the group's activities whenever possible.
  
  
• Join an organization of people who share a common hobby or interest. Even a solitary pursuit like reading can be a gateway to friendship through a book discussion group.
  
  
• If you have many acquaintances but no close friends, take the initiative to socialize one-on-one with those you like the most or who you feel will be the most open to your friendship. A quiet lunch or dinner conversation may deepen your relationship with a trusting friend. If the first few attempts don't pan out, keep trying.
  
  
• Keep in contact with friends -- relationships can wither if you don't work at them. Turn off the television occasionally and write a letter to a friend or call them on the phone. If possible, schedule a regular social event -- like lunch or dinner once a month -- with a close friend.
  
  
• Finally, when trouble looms or the stress mounts high, share your feelings with someone you trust. Just being heard and understood can make disaster seem less terrible and recovery more likely.